Should we ask, even if we don't want to know?

Let's talk about Honesty in Marriage.

Last week, I came to my husband with a spontaneous question. We were watching something on television and my question came out of no where. I just wondered what type of response I'd get- especially because it was spur of the moment. I asked him "What are your spiritual struggles? What's your temptation?". Now, for confidential purposes, I won't share his answer. However, I will share how his answer sort of took me in for a surprise. Ever heard someone say "Don't ask if you really don't want to know?" Well, I did want to know but probably shouldn't have asked because his answer stayed in my mind and was near unshakable. What have I done? I thought.

But the Lord spoke to me about exactly what happened. You see, God has been dealing with me about prayer and really seeking his face on behalf of others I come in contact with. So, I bought a prayer journal and have been writing prayer request I receive and scripture that I can use to pray for that particular person. It's really been a blessing to me. And, yes, I have been praying for my husband...for traveling grace when he's on the road and just overall strength as he continues doing an excellent job as head of this household. But, I honestly should dig a bit deeper. I need to know specifically what his spiritual needs are; what his temptations are, and I need to pray with him concerning those.

Prayer is powerful. Scripture tells us where two or more come together, God is in the midst of us. (Matthew 18:20). And so, this tells me that if my husband is before the Lord asking him to take something away or to help him with something, I need to be asking the same. Likewise, husbands should do the same for their wives.

The bottom line is, we are all not perfect. We have our own independent struggles that we are dealing with. So, what we need to do is not take the information our spouses give to us (especially when they are completely honest) and we shouldn't get upset. Instead, we should appreciate their honesty and go before the Lord in prayer! You do believe there is power in prayer, right? I pray you do.

I pray this word would quicken you in your marriage. Let it cause you to care and love your spouse enough to want to know what they are dealing with so you can take it to God in prayer. Know that he is capable of healing, restoring, delivering and mending. Let God do it!

Blessings to you this week,
Kennisha Hill

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